I’m Learning To Accept Myself

By Crystal Eddlemon

The need for acceptance by others is the one thing that every person has in common. I have spent many years trying to earn the acceptance of others only to find rejection and disappointment. Often times in the process of trying to earn acceptance, I lost my own self-acceptance. I struggled in nearly every aspect of my life due to lack of acceptance.

Even as children we yearn for our parents acceptance. We look to them for approval and reassurance also. Acceptance maintains its importance throughout our lifetime. In adolescence it can cause us to participate in dangerous behaviors to feel that we belong. This is a need that never subsides.

We can spend a lifetime trying to fill this need from the outside. This is like trying to store water in a container that has holes. Yes, it keeps us busy, but eventually we become exhausted and feel defeated. It is important to remember, that Jesus accepts and loves us unconditionally. Before He paid the ultimate price for our sins, He knew our lives from beginning to end. He knew every good and bad thing each one of us has and will ever do. Yet, He still loved us enough to sacrifice Himself in our place.

I now know that acceptance doesn’t need to be earned. It is a gift, and I accept myself for who I am. Even though I have many imperfections; despite all my mistakes; I accept myself, and I accept His wonderful gifts. He commands us to: "Love our neighbor as we love ourselves." He also tells us that we must give to receive. I believe this applies to acceptance also.

Your love is more precious than diamonds or gold,

it can not be bought nor can it be sold.

It does not change from day to day,

your love is here to stay.

In times that I feel most alone,

tis' then I look and see the love brightly shone.

Its in the little things we take for granted,

the most beautiful wonders in which your seed were planted.

Its in every living creature,

your example being the ultimate teacher.

Looking at the stars and moon you sat in place,

feeling the warmth of the sun shining upon my face.

Listening to the birds singing their song,

hearing your voice helps me to stay strong.

Keeping your promise bound in my heart,

knowing your love will never part.

Giving comfort in times of sorrow,

a hope for tomorrow.

Thank you for giving your love that never ends,

thanks also for my family and friends.

Crystal Eddlemon writes from Medford, Oregon.